Friday, June 26, 2009

Speed Dating: To Do or Not To Do?


OK. While I am only 20 years old, I managed to attend a speed dating event with my sister.
I am single so I wasn't entirely wrong in being there, however I felt horribly dissatisfied with the turnout because I was hoping to meet a number of interesting people to provide for a better blog post... But, I'll commence with my observations:

Rarely, will you find young men and women partaking in what is being called, "The Art of Speed Dating." My sister and I were the youngest people in attendance at a Loft Style Speed Dating Event on June 25th. We were disheartened upon learning of Michael Jackson's passing, may his soul R.I.P. But, we couldn't figure out if this was the cause of a disastrous evening.
The 4 men that showed up to participate were well over 3o.. some even in their mid and late 40s.
More than 1 were divorced with plenty of children to account for. None of these things are the negative sides of these men.
Instead it was the arrogance with which they spoke, and yet at the same time the sense of desperation.
I am not a cynical woman nor am I heartless, and I would never take kindly to someone joking with my feelings, but the absurdity of the evening had me fighting back laughter throughout each of my "speed dates." Ultimately, on my final date, the words that escaped the man in front of me forced me to end it within 3 minutes vs. the 8 allotted and excuse myself from the table.
This is why I hope to never go speed dating again: It is truly a scary thing to sit across from a stranger while attempting to take them seriously as they say things like, "honestly, I'm looking for the woman who will accept and understand that I, as a man, am entitled to more than one woman."
YES! He sat there and said that to me....
So naturally, my sarcastic New York self responded with, "Oh, do you practice polygamy?" And I politely pushed my chair back and said, "I think our date just ended."
Ladies, if you're single, know why you are single that's step number 1.
If you want to meet a quality man you have to understand your shortcomings and make sure that you can be considered a quality woman even on your worst day.
Step 2: If you don't want to be single anymore, don't desperately seek out a boyfriend instead be patient and open to meeting new people.
Step 3: DO NOT, AND I REPEAT DO NOT GO SPEED DATING. It's the most awkward and unnatural experience from the time constraints and the rules of the "game."
2 men and women realistically can not establish themselves in the presence of a room filled with other single men and women attempting to do exactly the same thing with your date if their current 8-minute one doesn't seem promising, it's insanely embarrassing at the same time to leave a speed dating event and still feel like you got nothing.
Granted I didn't leave my information because I had no interest in anyone, I can't imagine taking one of those events seriously and going home to wait for that foreign email or phone number to pop up with someone claiming genuine interest in me... It's just heartbreaking to think this is what older single people resort to and I hope and pray that love is kinder to me and that...
Step 4: my patience never runs dry, because it truly is a virtue.*

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